As nature would have it, men and women, or rather, Marsians and Venusians, are very different in everything they do. Predominantly in the way they interpret things and deal with them. That is what we arrived at the last time and I promised a part two didn't I? But before you proceed, lets call the language of the Marsians Marsian and the language of the Venusians Venusian, shall we? Join me do the translation!
The ''you should cut me some slack versus I just cannot help but draw conclusions theory''. Basically he feels she is too quick to jump to conclusions about issues, hence doubting his credibility while she feels she just cannot help but do so. For example, it has been a hectic week at work or school so he has become a little distant. He feels she should cut him some slack at least and give him the benefit of the doubt that he is indeed busy at work and consequently, is stressed while she feels he is probably avoiding her to spend time with another woman and is using work as an excuse. Let's translate this into Marsian shall we? Guys, she loves you and this makes her feel vulnerable. As such she does not want to risk losing you. Drawing conclusions is certainly not the best way to show it, but it is the Venusian way of expressing her fear of losing you. Think of it, if you did not mean that much to her, she would not worry in the first place, would she? And ladies, cut him some slack here, fear of losing him or not, if you don't trust him with small things, how will you trust him with bigger stuff? Or how will he feel you trust him if you draw conclusions too quickly?
The ''I am different from him versus why can't you be more like him theory''. Basically, he feels she should not compare him to someone else's boyfriend, while she feels if that guy is able to do it, then why can't hers? For example, a friend's boyfriend buys her flowers on his way from work while hers doesn't. So she will complain with the arguement that he isn't sweet enough and should try being like the other guy. In Marsian, this is the translation; guys, all she is trying to say is the things you do are sweet, but it would be sweeter if you could do something like what the other guy does, or better still, better stuff. She may not be putting this across in the right way, but that is just the basic concept; she also wants to go and paint a 'knight in shinning aromour' image of you to her friend! And ladies, your boyfriend and the other guy are two different people. There are things your boyfriend does for you that I am sure the other guy has not even thought of doing! Why not focus on the sweet things he does? Believe me, if he knows that you appreciate those things, you wouldn't need to ask him to do more, he will do it himself! Besides, comparison is a serious turn off!